Relationships, whether romantic, professional, or among family and friends, serve as both anchors and catalysts that enhance our growth and well-being. However, not all relationships are meant to last forever. For a relationship that has run its course, it is essential to navigate the process of ending the relationship mindfully, with the utmost care and respect.

In today’s digital age, public breakups have become increasingly common. From an employee who secretly filmed herself getting fired on Zoom, to televised celebrity splits, to a viral friendship breakup on TikTok, online platforms broadcast emotions, opinions, and narratives to a very wide and oftentimes vocal audience. So, navigating the complexities of modern breakups requires considerations of etiquette and emotional resilience.

Here are some important steps to take when ending a relationship that may help create a more positive, compassionate outcome for all involved:

• Self-Reflect. Before initiating that tough conversation, take time to reflect on your emotional state and reasons for the decision. Personal clarity will lead to greater sensitivity and an increased ability to consider the impact of your words and actions on the other person.
• Show empathy. Before your conversation, take some time to really put yourself in the other person’s shoes and make the effort to understand their perspective. When speaking with them, acknowledge the impact they will experience and choose words that reflect empathy. Express your thoughts with kindness and consideration of your your counterpart’s feelings. Avoid unnecessary commentary that may be hurtful.
• Have a face-to-face conversation. While it may feel easier to send a text and avoid the person, your relationship and the other person deserve the respect of a face-to-face conversation. Face-to-face conversations have the added benefits of facilitating open communication, minimizing potential misunderstandings, and fostering human empathy. Choose a private location where the other person can receive the news without feeling embarrassed or humiliated.
• Be clear and transparent. Be honest about why you are ending the relationship. Communicate how you and the other person can navigate the aftermath of the relationship during and after the separation. Address lingering questions or concerns.
• Allow for grieving and healing. Recognize that the end of any relationship is a loss, and grieving is a natural part of the process. Allow the time and space needed for healing, recognizing that it is highly personal and happens differently for everyone. In general, patience is key when promoting positive mental health outcomes.
• Maintain healthy boundaries. As you navigate the end of the relationship and its aftermath, be mindful of establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries. This may include setting limits on communication, avoiding unnecessary interactions, and respecting each other's privacy.
• Take time for self-care. Regardless of the type of relationship, prioritize self-care during and after the separation. You may now have unexpected free time—use it wisely and set new routines, enjoy your favorite hobbies you may have neglected, reconnect with friends and family, and prioritize your physical and mental health.
• Lean on your network. Reach out to friends, family, or mentors for support. Discussing your experience with others may provide valuable perspectives and encouragement. If you feel that the end of a relationship is having a significant impact on your mental health or the other person's, consider seeking professional support. A mental health professional can provide guidance and a safe space to process emotions.

While the decision to end a relationship is never easy, navigating these transitions with compassion, empathy, and kindness eases the process. Remember: the end of one chapter marks the beginning of another. Prioritizing mental and emotional health throughout the process will help lay the foundation for stronger, more fulfilling relationships in the future.